There is no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few signs to read in order to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you would like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have to pay attention on how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when you are together. Though love may mean something different to every person, there are many ways to tell if a person truly loves you, just has a crush on you or just being momentarily infatuated with you.
Notice How the Person Acts
See if the person can act naturally around you. Part of being in love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn’t show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you’re alone, then s/he is really opening up to you and loves you.
If the person shares his or her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love.
If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her.
Gauge if the person is happy to be around you. This should be true even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when s/he sees you, then that’s a sign of love. If s/he is in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make him or her feel better — if only a little bit.
The next time s/he is grumpy or has a bad day, see how s/he reacts in your presence.
Notice if the person gives you googly eyes. Though this may be silly, check out your loved one’s face the next time you see him or her. Does s/he look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as “googly-eyed”? You will know it when you see it. You won’t get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table.
You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression.
See if the person is giddy around you. Love makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love. Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for almost no reason at all whenever s/he is around you? If so, then this may be love.
If you’ve said something barely funny and the person cracks up, then s/he may be lovesick.
If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot around you, then s/he may just be excited by your presence.
Ask yourself if the person is upset when you are. If you are suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have the flu, then this should rub off on the person who loves you. If s/he truly loves you, then s/he’ll absorb some of your negative emotions and will be very upset because s/he’ll want you to feel better as soon as you can.
Though s/he doesn’t have to be as upset as you are, the person should clearly be affected by your mood because all s/he wants is for you to be happy.
Notice if the person talks positively about your future together. If the person really loves you, then the idea of you being in his or her future is an absolute given, not something that he or she would ever have anxiety or uncertainty about. If the person routinely talks about what you’re going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, then s/he is probably in love with you.
True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance s/he truly loves you.
If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then s/he may really love you.
See if the person gives you meaningful compliments. There’s a difference between saying, “I like your new haircut” and “You have the ability to make me feel better no matter what.” If the person gives you compliments that show that s/he really appreciates the important aspects of your character and personality, then there’s a good chance s/he really loves you.
Your loved one doesn’t have to shower you with compliments all the time — it’s the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference.
Determine if the person means every “I love you.” Remember that there is a big difference between “Love ya!” and “I love you.” If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it’s likely that s/he really means it.
If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say.